Thursday, June 2, 2016

Reflections on Ordinary Loss, Ordinary Grace

I like this quote. 

I feel it within my soul. It is truth.
It is a simple truth as this memory involving someone for whom I still mourn pops up.

"Each individual mourns differently,  but I have now witnessed how many people suppress their grief for fear of upsetting others." ~ Cora Neumann ~

I believe we must let go of the stigma of sadness because it is only through these passages of time we may arrive at great joy. If we don't allow ourselves to feel the "missing" of even the most mundane losses, we won't reap the benefits of experience.
It's hard to explain to a child why she must leave the safe and familiar place of an elementary school to endure the challenges of junior high. The transition, recognition and acceptance of change is an enriching experience which will make her a more resilient teen.
When I moved from the Tri-Cities in Washington at the ripe young age of 7, I did not know I would never return to my childhood neighborhood. I did not know my experience as a child as I knew it would become a distant memory. It may have been one of my earliest experiences with loss. I remember hoping for my friends to “reveal themselves” to me in my new classroom at my new school in my new town. I believed my new friends were just my friends with masks on. Yes, I had and still have an active imagination. At any rate, it is these ordinary losses that become the very experiences that shaped who I am today. They, and all others like them, are the graces I may have not wanted but God knew I would need.
The gradual experience of mourning, the mourning of any passing person or experience in life prepares us all for the next great adventure.
Even the leaves turn to brown in the Fall only to drop and fade into the ground so that the tree from which it fell may rise even taller and prepare to display beautiful new growth in the Spring.

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